It is hard to find a man, let alone a good man. So when you find someone you connect with and the hormones fly, it’s easy to lose direction and difficult to know whether he’s a prince or a player.

Here are six features that will help you tell a prince from a player.

1. A prince calls when he says he will. A player has a long list of excuses why he couldn’t call.
   
   
2. A prince puts you first. A player puts everything else (drinking, his car, friends, you name it) before you.
   
   
3. A prince wants to meet your family and friends and wants you to meet his (when he thinks the relationship is moving forward). A player may take you out with his friends (even on the first date). Consider this a clear signal he has little interest in building a long-term relationship.
   
   
4. A prince invests time in you - taking time to know you. He takes an interest in the things you do and like (he finds out your favorite song, dessert, memory, etc.) A player puts forth little effort to really get to know you.
   
   
5. A prince is the one who will hand-deliver chicken soup when you are sick. A player is too busy to see you when you are sick because it won’t be any fun for him.
   
   
6. A prince will romance you slowly, bringing you a simple flower or bouquet when the time is right. He’ll send a romantic card, or include a fancy dinner to celebrate something special. A player starts with a rush. He will romance you with expensive bouquets, fancy restaurants, and other extravagances from the beginning. He is looking for a quick payoff.
   
   

By Debbie Magids, Ph. D